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Cladner,

My best advice for someone in recovery is to GET OUT of the house. Do not isolate yourself. There is a whole world out there and it has nothing to do with your ED. Remember how trivial it is to obsess over weight and food (even if the weight and food are manifestations of a deeper issue). Surround yourself with good people and make sure to be too preoccupied to run off of recovery. If you are alone a lot and really can't avoid this, then you have to just remember who you are. Do you like to paint? Do you like to go for walks? Do you like to take bubbles baths? Anything to distract you from a relapse. But relapses will happen, and that is okay... it's all part of recovery. If you're bulimic and you binge, try not to purge. Sometimes it will come up anyway, but just try not to purge even if you binge. Try not to binge, of course. For me, it took a lifestyle change. I had to change my diet so I wasn't overdoing it with addictive food. But honestly, everyone takes a different road. So my only true universal advice is just to remember you have two choices: get healthy or die. You're worth so much more than that. If you wouldn't want your lover or friend or child doing the things you do, then you shouldn't do it to yourself... because whether we want to admit it or not, we really are not only hurting ourselves but all those whom love us. Before you relapse, make a list of the pros and cons of the relapse. You might want to write it out and paste it on your frige. You'll find very little pros and it might deter you from relapsing. Just by rehashing my old life, I am able not to stew too long in, "Oooh, I really wanna eat a lot of that" mode. Poor diets and crash-dieting always lead to unhealthy eating, so honestly, you gotta change have a lifestyle change involving the food you consume, so your body is fulfilled and can heal best as possible - physically and mentally. More veggies and fruit - they're loaded in nutrients that will heal you. On off days, I just remember that EDs are something so useless. It does nothing and isn't productive. Just one relapse could kill me. So, what's the point? I have a great life and an ED would just get in the way. I never wanna go back there, just thinking about it freaks me out.

Also, I really gotta say this... Sometimes people are consumed by recovery. That's all they're about. And I wonder if this is because they never were able to find out who they are apart from their ED or whatever it is they went through. I don't know if it's healthy or not, but for me, I made sure not to do that. After getting over the hurdle of an ED, I had to then confront why I personally may have used self-abuse to my body as a way for me to destruct. After dealing with all the things that led me there, I realized I forgot who I was apart from my history and ED. I really had to find myself again and live my life like nothing ever got in between. You know? Like, do you love to write or jog or jump on beds? Those are things that make us who we are. My one friend got over her ED by becoming political... but I think we each tend to trade one addiction for another. Yes, it's better to have a positive obsession than a negative one, but it still is only a fraction of who you are. So, little steps to finding your source is really important in recovery. At the very final stages or otherwise.


Mystiladi,

Thanks for the welcome I don't visit the forum too often, because I've found it can sometimes be triggering... in my past, it was. Not this particular forum, but just in case... I feel okay and want to now, but I don't want to overdo it or risk it. About me... there isn't really much to know... I love music and art. I love nature and animals. I have a really wonderful family and group of friends. My dog is my best friend. My niece and nephew are pretty awesome. I was getting a pet duck but that fell through. Woulda named him either Howard or William Quack-Quack. Dunno. Yup, that is me in a nutshell!