(how about for you, wreds?)
ye i'm ok Mys
i'm glad you had such an awesome weekend G. you deserve it.
ye i'm ok Mys
i'm glad you had such an awesome weekend G. you deserve it.
The Third Quarter
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Posts: 1888 (08/05/09 22:55:10) The Wordsmith |
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Posts: 4639 (08/06/09 18:35:53) Fountain of Wisdom |
Thanks you guys!!
Mys (and everyone) - please feel free to tell me what you are thinking - it is so much easier to "solve" other people's problems because we see them so much more objectively. I appreciate and take seriously every piece of advice you guys give me. Don't worry about being harsh or blunt - it is VERY hard to offend me, plus I know you are all well intentioned and only want what is best (so even if it was iffy, I would give you the benefit of the doubt!). love you all! 
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Posts: 1625 (08/07/09 12:59:13) Professional Gurlie Gurl |
Hey G,
The past weekend was a long one here too. Yours sounded amazing! How beautiful it would be to run on the beach at low tide. I want to go to B.C.! Sorry about the little  bumps in the road. Not being able to fully rid yourself of contact with would be tough, but maybe a higher power knows you can
handle seeing him. 
I'm glad you trust our input. We trust you too. I hope your weekend is another great one! Love. 
CLADNER
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Posts: 5583 (08/08/09 02:59:06) Motherly Wisdom |
Mys (and everyone) - please feel free to tell me what you are thinking - it is so much easier to "solve" other people's problems because
we see them so much more objectively.
that's good to know, g, so i have mentally filed it.  you...no one here, actually... knows how much i struggle to say all the right things. i'm well aware i don't have the verbal skills
of you or anyone else here, so i worry ALLLL the time that what i say won't be well received. i just hope (all of) you know i wouldn't knowingly hurt
your feelings for the world, but i fear i can be a bit too ..direct.. on occasion.  and to be completely honest, when there's no repsonse to something i
said, i fear it's because it wasn't taken well. of course, i also realize that no one should feel obligated to comment on an entire post, but
wouldn't you know that the one thing i said that concerns me the most is the very one there's no response to! 
anyhoo, i agree about problem-'solving' - i have always felt the same. when we are emotional about and/or too close to the issue at hand, it can be mind-numbingly confusing.... ok, ok, so maybe that's me.
thanks g. next time i have an epiphany moment, i'll be sure to share.
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Posts: 4643 (08/08/09 10:08:04) Fountain of Wisdom |
thanks Mys!
If you are ever concerned about something you have posted (to me or anyone else for that matter), feel free to PM me and I can give you my thoughts. Or if you have doubts about whether or not to post something, you can run it by me before you do. I have a pretty good sense (I think) of what is and isn't offensive. 
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Posts: 5586 (08/10/09 04:01:38) Motherly Wisdom |
thanks, g! but jeesh, i could be pm-ing you re just about every post! how about...you pm me if something i say is a bit off-putting? feel free to edit, too,
if it's reallllly that bad. i sure hope i'm never that offensive, tho.
again, thanks!
i meant to ask - the last time you texted
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Posts: 4644 (08/10/09 20:38:34) Fountain of Wisdom |
sure Mys - tho I can't think of an example of something you've said that I thought might be offensive! so you could be waiting a long time...
I think did reply last time, but it was a non-committal one and I didn't bother responding to it. He responds about 50% of the time these days. Not a
good rate of return! I'm trying another phase of non-contact. Overall it IS getting easier - I haven't actually seen him, other than bump-intos, since
last November! 
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Posts: 1631 (08/11/09 13:38:49) Professional Gurlie Gurl |
Nice G!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Here's hoping there's no sign of for a LONG time!
You give your whole heart towards everthing you do in your life, so ditch 's half assed ways. The dude is cramping your style (but you know this ! )
Keep up the wicked streak!
CLADNER
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Posts: 1898 (08/11/09 17:39:04) The Wordsmith |
Ditto to that!! Couldn't have said it any better.
wreds
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Posts: 4645 (08/11/09 17:54:39) Fountain of Wisdom |
I'm actually not even thinking of him much this week....
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Posts: 1632 (08/12/09 16:11:05) Professional Gurlie Gurl |
good to hear G! how are those homemade granola bars?
CLADNER
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Posts: 4646 (08/12/09 19:25:48) Fountain of Wisdom |
the granola bars are good, a bit too sweet perhaps - I am going to cut down the honey in the next batch.
everything OK here... to all!
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Posts: 5591 (08/13/09 04:46:14) Motherly Wisdom |
I'm actually not even thinking of him much this week....
excellent!!
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Posts: 5601 (08/29/09 02:14:48) Motherly Wisdom |
it's been over 2 weeks since you posted, g. is everything ok?? 'cause this isn't like you! you know if you need to talk, we are always here to listen!
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Posts: 1653 (08/29/09 12:37:24) Professional Gurlie Gurl |
Yeah.............how goes it Guru G? I hope you are ok.......let us know!
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Posts: 4653 (08/29/09 18:47:24) Fountain of Wisdom |
Hey don't worry you guys - I tend to post more when things are NOT good, so no news is usually good news... but thanks for asking!
Here's an update: No sign of for at least a month - I am doing OK, I really think this relationship is done, at this point (yeah, yeah, I know you've heard this
before!). I am OK during the week - Saturdays are the toughest, because that's when I used to hear from him. Two steps forward, one step back... I can see
tiny signs of progress though, like not sending him messages and not checking for messages all the time.
Running was going great till I pulled a muscle in my hip 2 weeks ago - again, two steps forward, one step back (sigh). Eating is OK, I'm eating healthy and not bingeing, and the NutraCleanse fiber supplement is working wonders with my digestion. However, despite all my efforts, I have not lost weight. I have to conclude that the extra x lbs are caused by menopause. I am now calling them my "menopounds" and looking forward to the day when menopause ends - because I'm assuming that's when they'll come off. Still have the abdominal distension, and have concluded that is a sign of stress/not enough sleep or relaxation/not looking after myself. This is a constant struggle for me. Work and home are busy, and it is hard to carve myself out any "down time". Things with DH are OK - he's still drinking, but not to a problem level. .. and that's me... Thanks for caring!
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Posts: 5602 (08/30/09 16:32:29) Motherly Wisdom |
I tend to post more when things are NOT good, so no news is usually good news...
mentally filed for future reference.
I really think this relationship is done, bearing in mind that you've said to be honest and not hold back...i think this relationship has been over for a very, very long time.
I can see tiny signs of progress though, like not sending him messages and not checking for messages all the time. that is HUGE progress, g, so don't
you sell yourself short! and i think that if there
is any hope you will fully and finally get over him, this is the way it has to be..and that goes for contacting you, too.
Running was going great till I pulled a muscle in my hip 2 weeks ago oh no!! i am soooo sorry, g. how are you doing now? I have to conclude that the extra x lbs are caused by menopause. I am now calling them my "menopounds" and looking forward to the day when menopause ends - because I'm assuming that's when they'll come off. being in perimenopause is a horrendously difficult time for many women, especially when it comes to weight issues. unfortunately, when you are in full menopause, defined as when your periods have ceased continuously for one year, um...it doesn't get any easier, sorry to say. metabolism has already begun to slow down, so of course extra vigilence is necessary to limit excess calories. however, despite all we do to fight it, some belly pooch is almost inevitable, even if one is reed thin. weight distribution changes, which is why you've probably noticed that many thin middle-aged women develop thicker waists and a slight tummy bulge. i don't know if it even can be dieted or exercised away..?? i think it's just part of the normal aging process. so it seems this would be the time for acceptance.. that how one looked at 20 isn't any longer possible, which i believe would spare middle-agers a lot of heartache.
he's still drinking, but not to a problem level. great news!
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Posts: 4655 (08/30/09 17:02:18) Fountain of Wisdom |
Hi Mys!
This made me laugh (which probably wasn't what you expected!): "bearing in mind that you've said to be honest and not hold back...i think this relationship has been over for a very, very long time." This made me sad (because you are probably right!): "some belly pooch is almost inevitable, even if one is reed thin. weight distribution changes, which is why you've probably noticed that many thin middle-aged women develop thicker waists and a slight tummy bulge. i don't know if it even can be dieted or exercised away..?? i think it's just part of the normal aging process. so it seems this would be the time for acceptance.. that how one looked at 20 isn't any longer possible" Because that's exactly where my menopounds are sitting - on the belly - I have a little "beer gut" (even tho I don't drink beer - that's what it looks like) that turns into "muffin top" when the ol waistband is a bit tight...  But what about the theory that hormonal changes are at
least partly responsible for menopounds? Wouldn't that suggest that once the hormones normalize, so does the weight? Much like a teenager outgrows
adolescent acne? (not that I did - oh oh)
well - maybe I just have to get to the acceptance part....
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Posts: 1912 (08/30/09 17:16:58) The Wordsmith |
So cool that things are going good G. I gotta say, this whole menopounds thing freaks me right out O_o I hope it does ease off for you G. xxxxxxxx
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Posts: 4656 (08/30/09 18:41:19) Fountain of Wisdom |
Thanks Wred! At least if I figure it out - you will be able to benefit from my experience!
Forgot to answer your question about the hip Mys. Yeah, I think it'll be OK - just a pulled muscle, but of course I keep trying to run, which is just delaying the recovery. So this weekend it was just gym and swimming - no running. And I go to my massage therapist on Thurs.  I will be back on track
soon!
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